How To Get A Girlfriend In High School
78If you are having trouble and trying very hard to learn how to get a girlfriend in high school, then you have found the right place! Here I will teach you some tips and tricks so that you would be able to know how to get a girlfriend. I can assure you that it is not difficult if you are willing to learn and are enthusiastic and genuinely interested to get a girlfriend. So where should I begin?
Oh another thing, if you are interested to know how to get a girlfriend easy in middle school instead (I mean middle school not middle earth as in lord of the rings), you might want to look at my other hub on how to get a girlfriend in middle school instead.
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First of all, let me tell you that it is impossible to tell you everything about getting a girlfriend in high school in just one single article. This article serves as a short primer or introduction to most of the techniques that I will be teaching you in this hub. For this article, I will touch on some of the basic requirements or things that you should look out for when you are learning how to get a girlfriend. These basic tips on how to get a girlfriend are actually some general tips, which can be appiled for other occasions, i.e. when you are actually interested to get a girlfriend, be it in high school or not. These are some of the easiest things that can be done, yet very difficult to get down, unless you are determined to make changes to your life.
If you are interested to know more, these tips will be elaborated in greater detail in my future posts on my blog. There is a RSS of my blog at the end of this hub. Just to let you get a flavour of the things that I will talk about on my blog, I have decided to post some of these tips here for you to learn from. There will be more updates from my blog, so if you are interested to learn more, you may want to click on the links to my posts at the bottom of this hub.
Without further ado, let me touch on some of the best tips on how you can get a girlfriend!
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Being Confident
Girls look for guys or men with confidence. It is confidence that makes a man and maybe an alpha male. Which girl would be interested in a man who is a wuss and coward? Are you lacking a girlfriend because you are not confident? Do you need to learn how to increase your confidence level. Some people say that they are shy or are born shy. Is there a way to overcome this shyness and be more confident about yourself? How can one build up his confidence so as to approach that girl he so likes and is interested in?
Showing Humour
Girls are naturally attracted to men with humour. Do not ask me why, I guess it is important that men be able to bring their ladies happiness, and one of the main ways to do that would be in the form of humor. Which girl would want to be caught in a life of depression? Hence it is important that a guy has a sense of humour. And how do you develop that you might ask? That will be the subject of future posts in my blog. So always remember, girls are on the look out for guys who have a good sense of humour, guys who are funny and also men who are able to make the girls laugh.
Displaying a Smile
Now tell me honestly, when was the last time a girl smiled to you? Do you remember how she looked? Did it make you happy? Or maybe it made you think that she was interested in you? That's it and the same rules apply when men smile to girls. So it is very very important that you smile more (especially to the girl that you like). Put on a bright cheerful face (no sulking) and most likely the girl will reciprocate and also guess that you have the hots for her. Oh and I am not asking you to be a customer service executive, or to smile all the time (people might think you are crazy!) Now that you know this secret it is time to start smiling more!
Being Honest
Being honest is very important. Guys who are not genuine will fail this requirement. Never ever try to test the sixth sense of the woman. A woman is very sharp about these things, she probably already knows that you are interested in her! Not to forget those men who are married and who fool around outside and are later caught red handed by their wives. Do not ever risk it! So remember, please be upfront if you are seriously interested in a girl. Of course do not tell the girl on the first date that you want to marry her! That will seriously freak her out! Be honest but be tactful as well. If you are just interested in sexual intercourse she will be able to sense it. Not all girls are looking for sex. Like what I already mentioned, this blog is for genuine love seekers.
Showing Interest
In addition to smiling that can indicate to a girl that you are showing interest in her, you might want to check out other ways that can be used to show interest. Please show interest in the girl if you are interested in her! If not, how is she to know that you are interested in her? Of course there are some girls who take some time to get the hint, then there are others who will never bite. You just have to be creative and drop hints here and there. Oh and do not act hard to get or worse put up a proud front. If she reciprocates by showing you interest as well, I am hearing wedding bells soon (just kidding)!
Just Be Yourself!
Now if there is something that you would want to take away from this article, then to know how to get a hot girlfriend, my last and most important tip for you is just to be yourself! Sometimes it is not important if you are a smiley person, or maybe sometimes you are not confident about yourself , or worse still you may be a dishonest fellow, but what is important is that you are true to yourself and the girl you are interested in really knows who you really are! If you cant remember any of the points which I have said above points, then please do remember this point. Whatever it is, just be yourself.
Of course, you can better yourself to be more attractive to girls. That is what my blog is about. It is not only about getting yourself more palatable to the ladies but also will show you how you can package or shall I say improve upon yourself so that you can be a better man and stand a better chance compared to others. Trust me, if you follow my blog diligently, I can assure you that you would be able to not only attract more girls but also to become a better and new person.
Now hope with this artcle, people would be able to understand what I am trying to get at and also spike some interest for you to check out my blog. To end, let me wish you luck in your journey to learn how to find a girlfriend and I wish you success!
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I really like your writng. It's of good use to me. THANKS.
Hi Neil
Thanks for the compliments. Hope you get a girlfriend soon if you do not have one!
Hi Eama
Thank you for the compliments too!
Hi Eama
Thank you for the compliments too!
Thanks for all that information. It's really good advice and I thank you for sharing.
Hi Cody Thanks for visiting my hub! Hope you get a girlfriend soon!
dude wat can i say ive read this and many of these for the past 2 years ive done everything this says its not working any help??
hi Hawk
Do not ever give up! I was a loser myself in the past but I managed to get a babe in the end. If you can share with me your story I can analyse it and see how best I can advise you...
Hey man thank you so very much, I'm just starting grade 9 and now I have all of the confidence I could ever have!
Hey there Andrew glad to hear that! Do hope that more people can benefit from this advice :)
i like your topic
Hi Jazel Mae
Thanks for leaving me those nice comments :) do visit my other hubs on the same topic!
hey man what could you tell a guy who rubs chicks the wrong way such as if i look at one to long they tell me i scare them i need help i am called annoying i am a little over wheight but i am not the dued who plays d and d. wanna help me
Hey I'm in 9th grade and there is this girl i like and I want to know your advice for getting out of the friend zone
Hey i'm in 9th grade, fat, tall, and very strong, i am also shy, how do you advise me on getting a pretty girlfriend?
well your fat thats how that works :P
@zacharyaaDrax You got to relax and just be yourself. Do not stare at girls! That will really scare them! You are overweight but you are still a unique individual. Wow those girls with your confidence and humour :)
@Nick How long have you been friends with this girl? It might not be time to get out of the friends zone yet. It is better to be friends then not even a friend right?
@Chris You have to have more confidence. However some girls dig guys who are shy. You may be fat but like you said you are tall and strong. Those are your strong points. Make use of them!
sircutsalot, please do not be mean!
so to be more confedent how would i show that confidence and humor know any good jokes or topics maby a conversation starter i am not afraid to ask a girl out my weak point is more along the lines of getting them to like me i just got fired from my job i have no money working on that Asap yea i will try what you said at school
ZacharyaaDrax, are you a student or are you working? You do not need any good jokes or topics. Just be yourself! You cant plan such things so that the girl will like you or you cant force or make a girl like you. It just has to happen after a while when you are friends with her.
i am a student but i work as well so i have money to do stuff with
ZacharyaaDrax, that is pretty cool. See you already know what needs doing and how to do it. Getting a girlfriend is just like getting money, you just need to put in some hard work. Dont worry because things will be fine :)
you should probably have gone into a bit more detail on the be yourself part. ive been following most of the rules on these blogs for about 6 months, occasionally i screw up, but im just now realizing that i shouldn't tell girls about my steam account or how i got a no scope double headshot on halo. even typing this i exagerated
hmmm I cant really describe more about the be yourself part. I can only say that just act normal and girls will sense how cool and confident you are. The more you try to be different around girls, the more likely you can screw up! It is cool to play Halo or have a steam account so I wouldn't worry about that if I were you :)
what if you're in a private school? not many girls there.
Hi Suraj, I am sure you can find many other places where girls hang out? Where else do you go besides school?
So i've always been the cool guy. Always had many girlfriends while moving around. Now it seems that i haven't any luck with the lafies. Im really nice, people say im funny, average looking, and im fun; so what's my problem? Last year i had a girlfriend who really sucked. She treated me like dirt and now i guess im kinda gun shy. It's almost been a year and i still haven't come close to getting a girl. I always pictured myself with the perfect girl, like on the movies. And i wonder if that could be me. What should i do? Please help.
Hi Brandon
I understand your pain. First of all, if you last girlfriend really sucked and treated you like dirt, why did that make you shy now? You should think about it in another way. You have been through such a tough relationship, shouldn't it be easier if you just got some other girl now?
I really dont know. I guess it makes me feel like every girls like that. I just want someone i can talk with and actualy have a relationship with but i cant find her. I've tried to lay low, have some me time but when is that time up? Is my dream one that is close to impossible to fulfill?
Hi i really like this girl and ive been getting and giving signs but she has a girlfriend already.. Which is kind of weird but she barely ever even says hi to her "girlfriend" and i think shes just trying to make people think differently about her because she is a lesbian what do i do???
Hey joey
im defiantly not the writer of this article but i just saw this and i wanted to help. You should continue to just be her friend and ease into asking her about her relationship with this girl. You can see above that i have my own i
problems with girls so id understand if you dont want to listen
(hope it helps)
-Brandon
Hi Brandon
First of all it was really nice of you to leave your advise for Joey when you are here to get advice. What you have said is absolutely what I would advise Joey too. I do urge all readers to leave their comments, it does not matter if you are not the writer of this hub.
Anyways, I would recommend that you make as many friends as you can now, both males and females. That way you will have more friends to talk to and have fun with. All girls are different and have their own personalities so you should not feel intimidated by girls. So start by making more friends and who knows one of them might be the dream one.
Hi Joey
As for your case I think you can be friends with this girl. Who knows she might not be a lesbian and just acting like this so that men avoid her. Just try out being her friend but if she really is a lesbian, I hope you don't take it too hard on yourself. If it bothers you being friends with a girl you like so much yet she cannot be your girlfriend then you should make friends with other girls too.
Hey any tips? I'm in nineth grade, i rock on the guitar, i can sing, im skinny, shaggy hair, not bad lookin, but i still can't get a girlfried. I haven't had one in like a year. And i'm really embarasses that i haven't kissed a girl yet. I hate it! Why is it so hard???
Well Nrocks, seems like you really rock! Why the need to give in to peer pressure? And what is the big deal if you have not kissed a girl yet. The first kiss is reserved for someone special so please do not rush yourself. Save it for the girl you will be spending your whole life with.
No problem.
And thank you for the advicei hope it works.
Hey I'm in 9th grade. I'm pretty fit but I don't think I have such a handsome face. Anyways, I go to an all boys school so to meet girls, I would have to go to some other place but the thing is, I have never had a gf. never even asked someone out. I don't know how. I don't know how to meet them, flirt, or ask them out and I have no one to help me because my friends are in the same scenario as me. do u mind maybe emailing me at mentalistmaster@aol.com and please help me out? I'd really appreciate it.
Hi Jacob Smith
I think you just need to be patient! Looks are not everything and the way I see it you do not have the chance to meet girls so in the future when you go to a co-ed school or when you work you will have the chance to know more girls. By the way you should not leave your email here because who knows maybe many girls will start to email you!
Yea hey Brandon just saying if you don't get any luck try something new maybe somehing you never have tryed that may help you become more noticed by more people aka randomly anything that looks like it could use help go for it word travels fast good travels as fast as bad I think but still try to be yourself .... I'm kinda confused myself writing this but sorry if you don't get it ha ha :)
Hi
I have only once had an girlfriend who barerly was my gf but to the point I dont see the girls being attracted by me and I have been without a gf in about 5yrs now so I need to refresh my mind.
Hi Hasona
It doesn't matter if you had 1 gf or 10 in the past because what matters is being yourself and being confident. When you got that I am sure the girls will come.
Hi,
i use to be in a few good relationships during primary school but have moved into an all boys high school. I am hanging out with a group of friends who aren't the type to get girlfriends. I think i would be fine finding myself a girlfriend but don't want to hurt their feelings by spending less time with them...
I dumped a girlfriend last year and she killed herself a week later.
I'm too scared to get in another relationship.
Please Help...
I have several girlfriends but don't know how to break up the relationships as i am scared that they will reveal our relationships to the media seeing as i am such a well known political ambassador.
P.s. Could you please keep this post a secret for legal reasons...
@ Zak
Having a girlfriend does not mean that you do not spend time with your guy friends! Just take the effort to find some time to spend with them!
@ Barrack obama & George Bush
I guess you 2 or maybe you both are the same person are trying to play the fool here! Anyways if your girlfriend did kill herself after you dumped her then I guess you better change the way how you dump girls! And George, really?
i just cant seem to get the confidence up to ask any girl out.im a little over wieght and im very aware of that, and ima afraid of rejection.im a frshman in highschool.i really do want a gf,not just for her body but for a person that understands me.i think,because of my weight and looks,no girl will ever say yes if i ask her out.i really need help, how can i overcome my fear of rejection?ive already started to diet and workout, but its not really doin much.i never really ate that much before anyways, but please help me!!!
Hi Zach
If you ask me there are two ways to work this out. First you either really work on that weight because it seems to be the only thing which is pulling your confidence down. Second, work on your confidence. Think of all the fat and ugly guys with hot gorgeous girlfriends. If you can't do this the only thing is to work on your weight, you should have seen that it is possible for really overweight people to lose weight so this is not something which cannot be done.
I go to an all boys high school never see girls, but at the same time i want to have a I am a good looking kid because every time I go to the mall I get the corner looks from girls . but people tell me focus on soccer and being successful and the girls will come. I never kissed or had a girlfriend I only told one girl and she said it was cutee. i am a shy guy to, how do i get over that
Hi John
I think you are doing fine just that being in a boys school you have lesser interactions with girls and hence you become a bit shy. Once you have more female friends and interact with girls more you will be fine.
To be honest, this is good for girls beyond highschool, but in highschool you pretty much want to do the opposite of all this.
By that I mean this,
If you are sad or quiet infront of girls vs smiling then they will want to know whats wrong or how to fix it. Remember, Girls still think they can fix everything, if you give them a challege you have a better chance.
Dont be honest, now dont lie, but make her guess, confuse her. Dont just answer everything she asks, atleast until college or beyond.
Make her feel stupid sometimes, yet dont make it obvious... why do you think the a**holes always get the girl?
Hi flava flave
I guess you are right in some ways, especially about the bring honest and not lying part. I do not think you should confuse her though it might makes things messy! And the fixing the problem part is typically guys thinking that is not done by girls. So do not think that they are looking at problems to solve!
hey, thanks for the tips, but the thing is, ive actualy had sevral gfs, but each one used me to get to somone els, then they made fun of me about it and got the whole school lauphing at me. i lesend the teasing with the rock song i did at my school talent show, but in a way, it made things worse, cause now they hate me for being a heavy metal head. im kinda nerdy (warhammer 40k, videogames) and i play in a band, but no matter what i do, i get walked all over, please help. i also get realy pissed when i see other guys making out with the girls i like, am i just being jelouse? and even though im super nice, im ignored, what gives? ps. sorry this is hella long
Hey, I'm just starting grade ten now and I've never had a girlfriend. I'm avergage looking, kinda short, slender, and my voice sounds kinda weird.. But I just find it hard to talk to girls.. I have plenty of guy mates.. But only one or two female friends. I just dunno what to do- and also I really want to get a girlfriend this year- but I have no idea how to even start... Im terrible at keeping conversations going and I tend to lose it around attractive girls. Please please help :/
I'm a sophmore in high school and I met a girl at a school basketball game. I like her and I kinda think she likes me but I'm not sure. I want to talk to her but I don't know if just going up to her and talking to her would be weird. I've talked to her friends and she's single. I'm a little overweight and i have mild acne and I think that might be a problem. So if you could help that would be great.
Hey, I'm a high school sophmore, I'm a little overweight and have a little acne. I don't have much experience with girls and I'm shy. I really like this girl and I'm not sure if she likes me. I've talked to her and I can't figure it out and I'm too shy to ask or tell her I like her. I also get embarassed really easy. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Wow why the sudden deluge of comments? Interesting. Let me try to help you guys one by one ok.
@momar123 it doesn't matter if you like video games or are nerdy or play in a band. Just be yourself and take things naturally. I am sure the right girl for you will come along soon.
@Aplsong Same for you too just be yourself and gather some confidence. Girls like guys who are confident. Do the girls you know know those girls who you like? Try to get them to help you out.
@zde67 and S.P. 1994 not sure if you two are the same person but it doesnt matter if you are overweight or have acne. Just go up and talk to her as a friend. And from there on just take things one step at a time
Thanks Alot for replying, I've got a foundation of an idea now :) thanks. But do you know any.. Idunno "techniques"? Like for approaching a girl in the first place.. How do I introduce myself? How dotarsiers a Convo? how do I keep the Convo flowing?(I've tried all the "how, what?" questions they don't work Too great.) How to I hold her attention without her losing interest or getting distracted? And how will I know that next time she sees me she'll remember me?
Hi Aplsong
It is really not possible to answer those questions. Only God knows! You just have to be yourself and be natural! Do not make her feel uncomfortable. If you got nothing better to say, silence is golden. As for approaching the girl, it depends on the location, just talk to her based on what she is doing or just a simple hi will do.
thanks for replying, but to bet honest, being myself doesnt seem to work. like i said, i got used alot and cheated on and it still kinda hurts, i dont let it show but i still feel the sting from many broken haerts. i know most people will tell me to just be my self, but i dont think girls like my personality. i mean im a frekin tool most of the time and thats just around my buddies, and most thing girls have to say to me are mostly insults so im almost obligated to asume all girls are just that way. should i be going about this whole thing a diffrent way? cause i dont think i can stand another broken heart
i also dont think being in a death metal band helps my cause, in fact most girls think im creepy or satinic because of it. and i know because theyve said it to my face and loud enouph to embarees me in front of a bunvh of people
Hi momar123
Having a unique personality doesn't mean that you have to change yourself just to suit other people. I am sure there is someone out there who is meant for you and who thinks the same way as you that she just does not belong anywhere! My advise is for you to be patience, keep your mind open and just be happy with your life, and make many more friends along the way.
@Momar123 sorry for butting in,but, about the death metal thing, I swear, dont worry/ there are at least five hot girls in my grade that love death metal- there's bound to be some in your area! Don't give up! Or lose hope! One of which I've kinda fallen victim to.,
once agian thank you for the replies both cheap toys and aplsong, it feels good to know that people understand my delema and i realy appriciate it.
i almost forgot to mention this but on friday i tried to ask a girl out in my high school. shes realy silly and i think she kinda flirted with me alot but i wasnt sure. i passed her a note durring class ( being my silly self!) and told her she had a preaty voice and that she was cute, gave her my number and asked her to call me some time or talk to me some time. i guess she showed the note to her freinds because she shouted loudly "i aint gonna @#$%en call him!" after class she aproched me, held up the note, and slapped me across the face (mabey i embarresed her in front of her freinds?) she called me a f#g and stormed off, with half the school lauphing at me. i half expect by monday everyone will know what happend and i probubly wont get a girl at my school. what did i do wrong? how can i be myself without geeting slapped for no reason?
@momar123 damn dude that sucks!!! I dunno what the hell went wrong there.. Guess that girl was a b*tch.l after all.. I dunno maybe you shoulda told her in private?
Hi momar123
Was that all the note contained that the girl had a pretty voice and was cute? She is not being very nice by doing that. Well at least now you know the real her and you do not need to waste anymore time on her. Cheer up and look for another girl instead! I am sure others will be more reception to your cute way of telling girls that you like them!
welp, i called that pile a dog crap right. the whole school knows. damnit. also why is it that all the girls i dated only wanted to go out with me just to use me? i never did anything wrong (if you count still never having your first kiss as wrong) so what could i have done? i always made sure they were comfertable around me and that i put there needs first but still no dice. so whats going on with me?
Hi momar123
What exactly do you mean by being used? Relationships are no biggie really but everything has pros and cons and not everyone are happy with their relationships. I think she and whoever is in cohoots with her are just being childish so you can just ignore them. Chill out and live life the way you want it!
the only thing is, i matured in this area alot faster then alot of other guys (hence i liked girls when they thought they were icky) and so i take it alot more siriously then other guys do. i take it more to the heart. i hate to use this analagy (cause i hate twilight) but i treat the girl im dating with the highest respect and honesty, kinda like edwerd does for bella. shes my entire world and i would do anything for her, and i do. one girl in particular i wanted to go out with so i had to get her to like me. i was always nice and respect full to her,did anything she wanted and did for her anything i could to make her comfertable, and she kicked me to the curb to make out with my best freind, in front of me when she knew i cared for her. i guess ive lost faith in preety much all girls cause this happens alot. am i not being nice enough? cause im preety sure holding the girl in my eyes as if shes a goddess is being nice in some freiken way. please help. sometimes i see the jerks at my school who get the girl i want and just make out with them anytime they want, and it makes me sad. am i just being overly sensitive. please help me figure out why im a toy to girls and why none of them respect my actions.
im tired of all this bull crap and im sad and lonley. i dont want girls to look at me and think im ugly or a complete dork or nerd with one glance anymore. it truly and honestly hurts. and it hurts worse every time.
is it also bad that ive been signed up for a teen datin site for almost a year (picture and all!) and havent gotten a single messeg from anyone
Hi momar123
Please do not despair. I really feel that the issue is not with you but with this strange girl who has acted very differently to your advances. As for the teen dating site, you should be more proactive and message the girls instead of waiting as girls are usually more passive. Good luck!
Thanks. I saves this article and followed what you said, now I have been going out with my high school girlfriend for 6 months now, thanks.
ive theres this girl, and she used to kinda be sort of a councler for me. i kept on telling her how my life sucks and all the woe is me bull crap, and then i realized, theirs a frekin girl payin attention to me. so i stopped the complaining and got to know her more and eventualy, i asked her out. she never replied. whenever i brought it up, she changed the subject, or said she was buyssy and had to go. i figured at first, with all the complaining i did, she thought i would get realy sad. so im wondering, did i ruin myself on this one? and if so, how can i make things right other than saying im sorry and stuff like that (cause that didnt work). this happend close to the end of 2010 so i dont know what to do
Hi Brandon
That is super and GREAT! I am glad that I have actually managed to help people here. Wishing you all the best!
Hi momar123
Sorry is this something else which happened? Because it does not seem to gel with your earlier story about you writing a note. Look you have to be positive about yourself negativity will just kill. Just try to ask her out again sometime later but if she is avoiding you you have to move on...
sorry about the confusion, all of these stories relate to a difrent girl other than the girl who hit me. the girl who hit me was karine, the girl who used me was alissa, and the girl im talking about now is elly. thamks for the advise, i just ussualy have difficulties with pulling my head outta the past cause i feel i wronged her.
Hi momar123
It sure sounds like you are doing fine given the number of girls you know! When I was your age I was a shy kid and I didn't know a single girl in the whole wide world so count yourself lucky!
but did i wrong elly?
Hey idk but molar I feel ya man I went out wit this one girl and she treated me like crap. I'm trying ta find another and I'm feeling kinda low cuz I see the other guys and girls(including my best friend from 6th grade) making out wit their bfs/gfs and I've still been kinda wanting to at least feel one myself and it really does hurt hope u can help
Hi momar123
You may be just scaring her. Just take things slow and remember always start by being friends. Being overly enthusiastic or infatuated aint gona help.
Hi Ragnarac
As for you, you are right to say that you should find another. Only time can heal your wounds and take this opportunity to make more friends or pursue your own interests like take up a new hobby.
well first i just want to get back in contact with her. i should of relised thatmaby she liked me when she always wanted to listen to me. some people say im just despret for love, others say its my age, and more others say im in love with the idea of being inlove. whats realy the case? and also, why am i realy good with helping my freinds get girls but i cant get one myself?
a passage i live by, hope it helps anyone in need:
oh, papa nurgle we live unto thee, as we throw our lives willingly, and you spread pestilence with glee. though we shall not loath, through our sickness and dispare, and we die in peace, and rot we shall share. but do not freat,do not fear, for in death comes rebirth, so give a cheer. in the filthiest pill of muck and puss, life has sprouted, from a powerfull lust. though disgusting, evil, and truly obscene, we love papa nurgle, and the life he brings.
the moral is that their is a bright side to everything, even death. though it may hurt fo a while, it all turns out well in the end. prais papa nurgle and his gift of rebirth!!!
Hi kalenmoore
thanks for that. hope it would help those who find meaning in it!
Im in 10th grade and extremely shy. i have a very hard time looking girls directly and i get embarrassed standing and talking with my friends when girls are nearby. My friends tell me im good looking but nothing helps. i am tall, fit, and skinny and i have tons of friends, but i cant be myself when im talking with my friends that are girls. i have never been kissed, and ive only asked out one girl(who rejected me).
What should i do, plz help...
Hi Demongate
You do not have any female friends at all? You should ask your male friends who have female friends to go out with you on a group date. You need to overcome the "fear" of being with women!
No, its not that, i have a bunch of friends that are girls, i just have extremely hard times trying to communicate regularily like my my guy friends.
Hi Demongate
Sorry but what you are telling me seems to be contradicting. On the one hand you got female friends but you are saying you are not able to talk to them???
yes, that sounds preety much like what im trying to say. Sorry if this is too confusing, its confusing for me too.
Dude sorry but you really are confusing me. If you have got female friends I don't really see a problem! Just get talking and you will be fine.
hey i am asking for advise cause i am lonley and want a real relationship. ok well a girl at school has just broken up with her ex and we have been friends for a while. ive liked her for some time now but never actualy got close enough to ask her out. i dont know if i should wait for her to recover from breaking up or just go on in and ask. any tips?
Well obviously, you don't have no idea that girls in highschool are only attracted to douchebags and assholes. I don't know why, but as they get older this sort of goes away (but not always). I don't know what it is with younger girls. College girls are a little less insecure and go for the the nicer guys, but highschool are nuts for the jerk types.
Hi jaywarrior117
I would say to stay as friends first. When you feel that you both got something special, that is when you pop the question.
As for Wiseman,
Thanks for that crazy and excellent analysis!
ok well she has shown signs the she likes me to but im not sure if its just her trying to get a guy or if it is directed at me. How can i tell?
There's this girl I really like but I get really shy when I try to talk to her, I talk to her on facebook and she nearly always replys, I was wondering if I say hi on facebook with no reply should I persist or just wait a few days before I try again? I have alot of friends where I used to live but I moved and find it really hard to make friends where I live now. I was bullied by girls alot in my first 2 years of school for being fat so I lost alot of weight and now I get none of that anymore but that has always made me feel nervous when trying to talk to girls. I'm about 6ft, dark haired and a tiny bit over weight.
jaywarrior117
You can never tell because she may be just a nice girl and she really likes you as a friend. Be patient, continue showing her that you like her. If you are meant to be with her things will happen.
Well Ryan23
If she has replied you before I do not think she is ignoring you. You should wait a while. Think about what to say to her, saying hi all the time will not work!
Wow, I can't believe I'm doing this, but I have no other options to turn to! I haven't had a girlfriend in my life, and I am a Junior in High school currently. I'm not sure what people think of me in this school, and I don't know how I appear to the ladies. My confidence is in question to myself, but I am a popular free-style dancer at the school. However, apart from the dances, I am largely ignored, even with my humor. Any advice on this difficult situation?
Hi Wraith32
You got to have confidence in yourself. Not having a girlfriend previously does not mean that people do not think highly of you. Since you can dance well use that as your strength and focus on that to give you confidence.
hey its me agin, bringin the good word from papa nugal. well, theirs a girl at my school i like, but my freind also likes her. he has a girlfreind but hes a cheeter and usualy has multiple. ive always went by never jack the girl your freind saw first, but technicly i saw her first. would i be a jerk to go at it? or should i let my bud get anther girl?
ps. she also kinda has a crush on him
Hi kaelenmoore
It depends on how good terms you are with this friend. If he is a close friend you should talk to him and ask him if he is being serious. If he is not then you will have to tell him to stay away from the girl or else you will have to tell her about him being a jerk.
guess it could work, but weve known eachother scince 1st grade, and hes like one of the only freinds i have, but more to the point. im alot like momar123 actualy, all of my relationships end badly and im fifteen and still havent kissed a girl. i get used alot. i realy like this girl cause she came out of her shel, i just felt realy attracted to her when i saw her real personality. she alot like me and she even likes videogames. she a freiken gem if u ask me, and id do anything for her, what do i do cause im hella shy and i freeze up when i talk to any girl? also momar123 asked you one last question in his last comment. idk how to anser it. welcom buddy!
Hi kaelenmoore
Why is it that everyone seems to be upset when they havnt kissed a girl? Do you know that it is not a big deal? The more you want something the harder it will be to get it. Since you already been friends with her for a while, I am going to say that you should take things slowly. As they say let nature takes its course!
Thanks for the help, good luck everyone else!
Sure Demongate you are most welcome!
Hey again, I just wanted to say thanks to cheaptoys here for the advice. I haven't been able to use it yet, but thinking on it, I suppose this should work. This site definitely helps out, very true facts. Keep up the work, it's amazingly accurate to the situation!
Thanks Wraith32!
Hey cheaptoys, i am now in year 12 in aus (17 y.o) and i havent had a girlfriend. my luck with girls has been pretty cruel to me. i started puberty a year late and it has kinda ruined my confidence, i branched away from most of my friends in year 10 who had "grown up" and didnt want to be seen around me which lowered my confidence first. Then talking to girls and going to parties was the new thing which i wanted to do and i tried doing and kept getting shut out. I have not been invited to a single schoolies party which all my friends have ... which i can handle and understand is not that big of a deal but it still hurts. The three girls i have asked out have all said no and two have told me that i was weird because i "act like i dont fit in". i have tried to analyse what they mean, and i keep coming back to - that i am choosing to be a loser - which to me doesnt seem right ro make sense. If you can help me try and fit in again or help me understand what i have or am doing wrong ... please let me know, thanks
PS if it doesnt make any sense im sorry, im not really good at explaining things
Hi Moth811
The issue is not about being late in puberty or not fitting in with the crowd. I think you are still trying to figure out more about yourself too. You should not rush yourself to just get a girlfriend as I think your special someone has not appeared yet and she is likely not the typical type of girl too
thanks but things just got a bit worse. i recently discovered that my ear infectioni have had for a while is actually a disease called otitis media (chronic). i have it in both my ears and am now permanantly deaf in my left ear and have trouble hearing out of my right. but i asked a girl to the upcoming school dance and she said yes, but i think it's out of pity or desperation because she doesnt seem to care about me, only herself. she has told everyone that i am deaf. but i understand what you have said and i will try and have hope.
@Moth811
Do not let that handicap get in the way of things! So what if she is doing it out of pity? You will never know and you cant just shy away from everyone now because whoever said yes is just taking pity right?
hey i really like this girl and shes one year younger then me, im about 20 pounds over weight but its barely even noticible because of my muscles, i play alot of sports so i am sorta built, i have a cool hairstyle which is know for christiano ronaldo hairstyle, ye but anyways im to shy to make a move or talk to her what do i do. i have never had a girlfriend before so im kinda scared.
@Bobby
There is nothing to be scared about and there is a first time for everyone. The good thing is you got muscles and you play a lot of sports and you got a nice hairstyle so why are you still worried?
Hey,
Ive been reading ur section for a while and I hope that u could help me with my problem. I'm a pretty skinny guy (metabolism) and ive got a 6 pak and (but u rlly can't show a girl that). I am extremly shy tho and I just moved 2 a new skool too. Is there any advice u can give me regarding this topic?
@Zeryr since you are in a new school, it would help that you be friendly and get to know as many people as possible and adapt to the new environment first. You can start by making male friends first if you are shy with females!
hey cheaptoys, been awhile since we last talked and boy do i have bad news. everything you told me to do didnt work! i dont know why but, im actualy getting insulted daily by every girl i know. i know youl say to just wait, but ive waited 5 months since we last talked. girls seem to hate me more now than the ever did. all ccause i tried to bee myself. girls on the street judge me before they get to kmow me and every girl tries to change who i am or how i look. should i just give up and understand i have a curse?
@momar123
Do you even know why girls are insulting you? If being yourself means acting stuck up like a pig then of course it is not going to work!
never, ive always acted like a gentlemen to girls and an insult will never leave my lips. im not a sheep, i dont act like all the other guys at my school who are all sexual and jerks. im hella nice, goffy, and polite t everyone. im not stuck up in anyway shape or form. they mainly insult my personality or call me gay cause im hella close freinds with one of my band mates. also my hair. the love to screw it up and play with it then they turn right around and call my face ugly or tell me to cut my hair. im just really tired and i want to give up cause i fell there is no hope. the only other thing that i think might be wrong is that i kina have a anima fetish, and i dont share it openly, but people have caught me looking online and have spread it around. also, i realy like asian girls, i just think they are hella cute and nice, but when i try to be nice, they ignor me. im just lost and need new advice
@momar123 I think everyone is just in this phase known as growing up and find out more about yourself and your own personality but this will pass as time goes by.
ok. but what do i do about my anima fetish? is it weird? i guess i kinda started likeing it cause a picture of a hot girl can hurt or insult you. and i also feel like a bad person cause i feel like i dont think real life girls arnt good enough. but its really the only thing that turns me on. is their somthing wrong with me?
Hey I have a huge problem and I don't know why so I am a freshman in highschool and I tend to stick with other freshman but not quite my point but it leads up to it anyway I have asked my friends for help with this topic and they all say the same thing however it's not working because I have asked 6 different girls to start a relationship and all of them have said no please help by e-mailing me at trilinkin@comcast.net
@momar123 what is this animal fetish? You are in love with animals or...
@Mark did you try to date 6 girls at the same time?
no, not animal. animai. as in manga and cartoon girls in manga, or japanees drawing form. sorry i spelled it wrong
I am in year 8 I am a little overweight, I have never had a girlfriend before but I have asked girls out before but it has been on facebook I always joke around with friends how would I be able to get a girl should I change anything
@momar123 I think you mean anime. Nothing wrong with that! Don't worry! Many girls love it too!
@Calzy No you should not change anything but if trimming your weight would let you be more confident about yourself then go for it!
thanks agin (spelling was never my best subject) but why do i fell bad about it? and their is more to it. its kindda a furry anime fetish. dont worry, i dont like real animals, but i do like that style of clothing. somthin about the ears and the tail. and im serius, i dont like real animals. i just feel realy bad about it, do all people feel this way about fetishes? or am i just feeling parinoid? i also belive this might be hurting my ability to get girls.
@momar123 From the way you are talking I really think it is just you. You are just different from the rest or what some people say special. You just need to find somebody extra special to suit you, thats all.
so are you saying i should look elswear from my school? or do i ultamitly need to wait for the right girl to make her way in my path? and just to be sure, you mean special in the good way right? not the kookoo way right?
@momar123 You would have to wait. maybe there is a girl for you in this school maybe not. If you believe in the one she most likely has not appeared yet. Everybody has there kookoo ways but some people may like it some people do not. You get what I mean? You are just more special then others!
i have got to be friends with a girl before and was friends with her for a couple of years but wean i asked her if she wanted to go to watch a movie or something she would always say she was busy and i have had this happen every time with different girls i am 6 feet 4 1/2 inches tall and i weigh 255 pounds
hi anonumos
if she considers you a friend then I do not see why she refuses to watch a movie with you. have you ever asked her why?
Hay I'm back again I was in one of your later postwar I am 12 and in high school little over weight etc well I lost some wait and did everything u said and I now have 6 girls phone numbers and a lot of girls wanting to meet up in town and stuff and I just came back to say thank u
Hi Calzy
Wow thats crazy! Glad that you came to thank me for my advise but I have to tell you it was you who did it! I only played a negligible part!
hey im new to this im sec 4 and im rlly gd friends wit this girl the only thing is im shy when im nxt to girls n i giv her advice but it actually says i like u but she doesnt realize it how can i tell her tht i love her
hi angelo start from friends first. Please do not tell her you love her as you will scare her away. Just try to ask her out as friends and better if you are going out with her in a group. Take things slowly!
hey again
ive known her for a while so like i think she likes me to but im scared if it makes it awkward towards her afterwards
hi angelo you think she likes you but she may just like you as a friend. So listen to my advise and everything will be fine. Take things slow or else things will definitely be awkward.
how do u get a girl who u really like but she likes to flirt with a lot of guys
Hi Matt
Why do you even like this girl then? Is she not flirting with you?
Ok there is this one girl at the back of the bus. Everyday she asks me (only me) if I have any drinks. I usually do since I sell sodas at school, but i give her one for free. Would she seem too suspicious and think of it wrong, the first time I gave her a drink she said I made her day, how do I play this out afterwards...how will I know if i should make a move, and how?
Qwerty, you do realise she may be doing that to get free drinks from you?
I know she's not that kind of person
Well she might, but I know what kind of person she is. The very first time she asked she didn't know I had something to drink before, she never asked anyone else for one before me the first time. Well if not be that as it may, how do I get her to notice me without that "awkwardness".
Qwerty, obviously love has blinded you and you are just siding her. If you are already talking to her, whats the problem about this awkwardness...
Hey.
I'm 15 and living in northern Europe. 188 cm/6,2 feet tall, decently built, curly dark brown hair/hazel eyes and according to the girls in my class, I'm pretty handsome. The thing is, the last time I had a girlfriend was 5 years ago or so, and that makes me feel odd. I don't consider myself shy or having bad confidence, I just haven't met the right girl yet. I just think that having a girlfriend whom you don't want to spend the rest your life with feels... like you're cheating her in some way.
Does anyone have ideas where I can find the "right" girl?
Best regards
-H
Harald, you are 15 years old and already 188 cm tall? Wow that is amazing. Look there are people who remain single their whole lives waiting for the right girl, so if the girl does not seem right to you, there is nothing wrong staying single till "the one" comes along!
Thanks for your quick reply and advice, I'll bear that in mind :)
As for the girl question, I've met a girl who's 3 years older than me. We share the same intrests (Gaming and football!) and I think she likes me. What should I do?
-H :D
Harald, you should ask yourself if age is an issue for you. If you think she likes you more than as a friend than clearly age is not an issue to her. It all depends on you both :)
I think I'll keep it at the friend stage for a while, but maybe it can grow to something bigger in the future :)
Really good hub and helpful tips :D
-H
Hi Harald that is the right and best thing to do. Asking a girl to be your girlfriend early usually scares her away...
Thanks man I needed this advice for a girl I really like. Fingers crossed.
Sure Karlos
Glad that I can help :)
been a long time and i still have had no luck. more pain and no gain still. i just want all the pain and heart break to stop. but i feel helpless and insignificant, i know i shouldn't give up. but it seems the last option. help?
hi momar123 to be honest if girls sense your current attitude they may be turned off. Try to become more optimistic and confident before you try to hang out with some girls again.
hey like your advice but every time i try to be myself people think im weird and annoying
hey there is a girl i like at school but she dosent know me that well i am very quiet i dont know what to do what should i do?
hi justin you already said you are very quiet but I think what you need to do know is to get her to know you better
Okay I now this girl since first grade and she left from school in 4 grade and came back in 7 grade im going to 9grade with her and I now her I talk to her and I make her laugh buti dont know how to aproach in asking her
Gansthony, if you are already making her laugh I think you do not have a problem talking to her...
Yea I nkow but I dont nkow howto make the step in asking her I think that I am not confident doing that step I dont know how to do it and I will like if you help give me an idea
Gansthony if you are shy then try to go out with her with a group of friends with a mix of girls and guys that might help
But she always hang out to the movies with her 2 closest friend and those type of group wont work... sometimes I talk to her in the class room and she talks about her family and stuff like that do you think I could do something in that moment?
Gansthony if she is already talking to you then there is no point for you to rush things. Just get to know her better including her family and once she realises that you really make the effort to know everything about her she will be touched
I was a the quiet kid in the corner that no one payed attention to till this last year. You could say that my confidence didn't exist at all. I found several great things that boosted my confidence: I got a job to start with the job came responsibility as well as a pay check, I also started to get involved in community events that put me in greater and greater leadership positions. It is now my senior year in highschool this fall and I still lack a girlfriend because despite going out and doing things it is still like they don't know me. I am a heck of alot more confidant I even started speaking infornt of large croweds at the stadium where I work. Need advice cause it still ain't working...........
Hi Dbcombo1 I am sure there are girls out there who notice you but maybe you have been too busy to notice them!
good tips on this page
i have a problem, people think in school think i'm unhappy all the time because i sometimes don't smile alot and they think i'm in a bad mood all the time
i am kinda confident and i am definately happy and i think i have a good sense of humor
so how do i get girls to know i'm not in a bad mood and i'm happy without creeping them out?
plus i'm sometimes quite quiet around people i don't talk to that much because i lost all my confidence about 2 years ago when i acted like an a$$hole to people when i was really immature, then i lost the friends i had and that turned me into 'the quiet kid in the corner'
i now have lots of other friends but i'm still lacking alot of confidence, especially around girls i like
so how can i also change this?
d123, I think you know the cause of your problems and how to help yourself. Just be more friendly and smile more! When you do that confidence will naturally return when people smile back and want to talk to you
ok thanks;)
i have never tried asking a girl out, incase i get rejected, the confidence issue again i suppose
so obviously i wouldn't really know what to say and how to keep my composure, so how would i ask a girl out successfully?
d123, try asking her out in a group setting first
Hi, I spent the last hour reading all of this:) you seem like chill guy that could help me out!! So here is mu situation ..I'm 15 years old always play sports so I'm fit I'm like 5'5 but that's pretty average around here..and I moved from my previous state to a new one and a new high school so I don't know anyone:( but it's the first week of school and I came out of a bad relationship because I did the one thing I hate my self for and cheated...but it was a horrible relationship to begin with..anyways thats not the point..what I want to say is that I notices this girl that's in most of my classes..she seems cool and I think she is so cute but I don't know her at all..we talk a few times and she constantly states at me? Or maybe I just pay too close attention>.
But the problem is that I want to get to know her more become friends with her to see how she is so things won't go wrong again..I can talk to girls it's just I'm bad with first encounters ...we talk sometimes but nothing significant ..any tips?
Wukidd you actually already answered your own question - you just need to get to know her more and become friends so aim for that! It does not have to be significant, things take time to work out!
Ok so I have never really tried to get a girlfreind before I am shy and a mlg gamer and I am a softmore I like this girl I met her last year and she is a senior now any tips also not veary good with girls
hi Chris white I sure got many tips for you. Just read my article. Be nice and start by being her friend.
I already am her friend its just that I don't see her much this year and I have hard enough time just talking to girls and I have never asked a girl out before
Chris if you are already her friend I do not see the difficulty in asking her out? Just say you are bored and want to watch a movie and ask her along. If you are shy get some other friends to join you and remember to act natural!
And I havnt seen her that much this year also I don't have a car or license yet so for trasportation and paying fir and I am nervous about the asking her out part cause I have never done it before
Chris then just do it in a group. You do not need to be a driver or car owner to get a girlfriend.
Hey dude there this girl in my math class that always gives me flirty look but when I do it back she gives me a bad look. Pls help a brother out.
Hey Cheaptoys! I just found this site today ironically and it is interesting to me. There are so many beautiful girls that I actually know and talk to. 1 in particular that I have 4 classes with. We text and talk in school but last year in 10th grade I think I jumped the gun too soon, if you would say, by asking her out. I might have opened up to her a bit much with my problem that I'm dealing with, which is depression by the way, and I honestly don't know if I should ask her again but I might be pushing my luck to be honest. Just yesterday I was going to talk to her about why she doesn't talk to me or responed back to my messages (though I hate talking to people through text messages like a long conversation, but has its benefits of course if you want to keep it quite from others.) but I didn't because I got completely scared of what her response will be. Most of the girls at my school are mainly Mexican (not being racial by the way) and no I'm not Mexican or have any of the ethnicity of any Spanish related background. I am European, born in America, and I consider myself mostly German. Of course we have so many differences like she being a vegitarian, thankfully I'm not, she listens to the music I hate to most that almost everyone listens to in California: hip-hop, R & B, ect. and of course me being different I listen to Metal and NDH (New Deustch Hardness like Rammstein for example). Though I don't dress like I'm emo, a punker, or a gangster because I would look ridiculous; I don't dress nerdy either, just another guy who dresses to wear what I like. I just don't know anymore and can't get her out of my head. I'm just going to ask her on Tuesday why she seems to avoid me because I feel out of the abis. Yes this adds to my depression as well, but I'm not using it as a scapegoat to get her. Any more advice to give me a helping hand again? That would be great thank you for your help. (also I try not to think of my past rejections)
dear davidtorres i am not sure if you are reading her correctly!
hi Matt what matters is not who you are but your feelings and how you treat her! Start by being friend with her first..and please only focus on one...
Hey, I'm in 10th grade and there's this girl I really like. We have two classes together but it seems like every time I try do a project with her she already has a partner or a group. I don't talk to her a lot outside of class, and when I do it's mostly during cross country practice. What do I even say to her? I'm still almost completely lost on how i could show her I'm interested.
Zeff be patient and soon you will be talking to her. Love will find a way! If you are destined to be with her it will happen
want u tell wat must i tell a girl to get mine
mike, you do not just talk to her to make her yours. it is a much longer process than that
hey im in 12th grade and well there is this girl in my class that i really like but she acts as if im not even there what can i do about this
Hi Steven, you just got to show her that you are there. Start by trying to talk to her or getting to know her good friends. That would help.
I'm in 9 th grade i have no idea what to do
Hi Joe, just read my hub for tips! I am sure it will help you out
Hey I am still nervous about going up and asking her out she is the presedent of flba and she likes to golf if that helps plus she is a senior so she is going to graduate this year please help me
hi chris
try to make friends with her in a group so that may calm your nerves a little
Hello. I am a freshman in high school and I think I found my real true love. The problem is, I can't think of ways to get closer to her.
I am usually shy around girls I really like, but I am ready to overcome that if it ever becomes a problem. However, my problem is I only have 1 class with her and its band, where I can hardly get to talk to her because she plays a different instrument and sits a bit far away from me.
I do not know this girl, I just met her, we didn't even to talk not even once, nor have I managed to say hi to her. I dont want her to think of me as a freak or a weirdo. What exactly can I do to get to know this girl without it being awkward and un-natural, and how can I get this girl to like me?
hi JayheartJudy, band class is not the only time you can talk to her. Try before or after the class.
ok so a girl tells you she likes you. what do you say back to her?
comodore, you tell her that you are greatly flattered and say that you two can be friends. This is what you should say even if you are very interested in her. From there, build up the relationship, get to know each other better and see if it goes anywhere
Hi man good info I am 16 and never had a girlfriend does that make me a loser? Sometimes i feel girls just don't like me but on the other hand there was never a girl that i was interested in. Is there something I'm missing or is something wrong with me? because everyone I know had at least one girl in one point of there lives.
Hi Rudolf, you are absolutely not a loser! You have probably not met someone who you are interested in and there is nothing wrong with that. Love takes time to happen!
hi cheaptoys! i want to get a girlfriend and there's this girl i really like but I've always been a bit of an oddball at school. I'm good at sports but what everybody thinks of me is as a nerd. i read a lot and I'm really good in class and stuff. I've never really fit in with the more popular boys. we talk a lot but i don't really know what to do. do you have any ideas?
im sorry, there's a typo. i text a lot with the girl i like and i barely talk to the popular guys, who are kind of her friends,
Hi Jonathan it sure seems like deja vu to me as somebody seemed to ask me the same question you had. its does not matter if people thinks of you as a nerd. What matters is what is inside the heart. If it is sincere I am sure you will be able to get a girlfriend.
thanks. I'll work on that. do you have any ideas on the next step? i feel like there's no way to move closer.
Dude, one step at a time....
ok well heres my story. In 8th grade I asked a girl out and she rejected me. I went on a depression state and stopped looking at other girls. Now I am in 10th grade limited on all the friends that I have that are girls and want more. What do I do?
Hi makesumnoise, first of all are you out of this depression state now?
yes im out of the state it wasnt so much of a depression it was just that i did not interact with any of the girls so lets say im behind the game while other guys made friends with girls last year
Sine you are out of your depression stage i do not think you will have any further problems. Just read the many tips that I have provided!
Hey, I like a girl in my French class but noone in my class gets time to talk and outside of class she is always with her friends and I don't know how to approach her or if I am not good enough for her..
Hi Mitch never think that you are not good enough. You can always try to find someone who knows her or her friends so that you can be introduced to her
Be yourself? That is absolute BS. Ive tried that for 6 FREAKING YEARS!!!
PO'd It is just that ypur other half has not appeared in your life yet. Imagine not being yourself with the girl you love, how tough is life going to be!
um cheaptoys you know the girl that i am trying to be my girlfriend is a honor student but i am not how can i show her that i am interrested in her and at the same time there are people around me that might discourage me pls give me a good advise
Zians, who are these people who are discouraging you? You must get some courage and try talking to her
Hey cheaptoys, I am a freshman and I have a concern about this girl who is my first love.
Today she was asked to the homecoming by one of my friends... and she said yes to it. I just met this girl in Highschool and I fell in love with her. The more I talk to this girl, I love her personality and her looks. However,I won't say Im the hottest guy out there or anything. I do have some body and an average guy face I guess you can say. However, my friend who asked her is really good looking. I have 3 classes with her and I finally began to get some convos going on with her, but I still didnt think she knew me well and I was trying to get more friendly with her, and this just happened.
What can I do...? Do I still have a chance...? I mean I really care for this girl and I am willing to do almost anything but Im not quite sure what I can do about it.
If it is not meant to be then it is not meant to be. He just asked her to the homecoming why are you making a big fuss over it? If you are good you will get her in the end.
Thing is I never had a girl friend ever in my life before. So just because she said yes to a hc doesnt mean she isn't willing to go out with someone else... yes? Im trying to get better at making girls like me more... I have a really good personality and I am a nice, mannered guy but I really doubt that she knows me that well. Any Special things I can do?
yes that is right Sean. Nothing special...just do what you would do and that is special enough
Hey I'm a senior in highschool and have never had a gf before. I tried freshman year but I was kinda a nerd then and was still getting the hang of highschool. Well sophmore year I had more or less broken that nerd status and decided to try to get a girlfriend. Well the girl I was after turned out to be a real b!tch once I got to know her. Well I tied with another girl but she was not interested at all. 11th grade came and I tried with a couple of other girls who became more interested but no dice. but I always get to the point where they give me hugs when I see them but I always have to get there attention first. Well now I'm more confident with girls this year and am getting farther to where girls notice me and say hi to me first but I'm still just a step away from asking them out. I'm a black kid with average face and I'm kinda skinny. So my overall problem is getting to the step where I can ask them out. One thing though is because I'm not used to the girl acknowledging me first I can't tell if them waving at me or them calling my name is them just being nice or if they like me.
Andre, looking at your post it seems that you are not sure of yourself. Be more confident and the girls will come knocking :)
Actually here my biggest problem there's a girl I've liked since freshmen year. I done evrything within my power to show her that I'm interested without up and telling her that I like her. Well junior year I didn't talk to her at all but I'm talking to her again this year I talk to her in class but it's never long conversations because she talks to her friends mostly. But before and after class I talk to her sometimes and she sees me as more of a person she talks to when she's bored more than of even a real friend. The good thing is she say hi to me and acknowledge I'm there sometimes but she would do this back when I would talk to her more. The thing about this girl is she's a real nice person and her saying hi isn't a real big deal. She's a real popular girl and even has a boyfriend that's in college. My main problem is I'm not getting anywhere with her and cause of her overall social status and standards I feel I can't get anywhere. It's kind of a unique situation but I have never like a girl more In my life I can't keep from thinking about her and even when I'm near her I start to change and act more of a man. But she's real special to me and I really at the least want to get to the stage where I can tell her. The wierd thing though is not talking to her for a full school year hasn't changed our overall relationship. If you need more details please ask for them becuase I need help with this and this is possibly my last chance to show her my feelings. Please help
Thanks for the advice. I do have confidence problems but I still would like to know if these girls really like or if they just are being nice. Of course you can't tell without being there but based on what I told you do they like me or am I being over anxious.
Andre, it doesnt matter as long as you are confident.
there is this girl in my gym and Spanish class. I have been friends with her for four years and i think she is showing signs that she likes me and i like her. But i don't want to ruin our friendship if i am wrong about her showing these signs. What should i do?
Simple you already answered your own question Billy! You dont want to ruin the friendship so just stay as friends. :)
but the thing is i really wanna date her
You can date her as a friend
what does that mean i am confused
Treat her as a friend and ask her out as a friend. Do not in any way show your true feelings till the time is right
Oh okay thanks ill try it
The weird thing is is I'm showing confidence but she has real high standards for guys cause as I said earlier her boyfriend is in college and she told me she doesn't date guys in highschool. She also plans to go to USC for college and her parents are rich because there both doctors. I've been trying to show more confidence but the big thing is we have almost nothing in common she gets out and does stuff and I don't do anything, she goes to parties and goes to school football games and she drives. I don't have a car am not aloud to go to parties and when I try talking to her at games she's surrounded by so many friends that I can't talk to her and it doesn't help that I have nothing to really talk to her about. But I'm tired of making excuses and I want to at the very least tell her how I feel but I feel I can't because I don't fit into her social group so I can't get close to her. It's frustrating and confidence alone isn't helping. No matter how I apply it Im not seeming to get anywhere.
Hi Andre, somethings if it is meant to be it is meant to be. She seems to be different from you, you might want to reconsider. It may be tough to work out even if shes gets interested
I guess you maybe right. It's just hard to give up on it because even when I tried to forget about her I couldn't. I tried to move on but she just kept coming back to mind. It's kinda torcher to be perfectly honest. But I've tried to run away from the problem enough and my feelings just got deeper. So I decided to embrace the problem. So I figured that I would try and get some help to handle my problem.
Andre, of course i am right! do heed my advice! well u didnt even start if you did it would be even harder to forget her
what do you do if you have to ask a girl out on a bet but you were going to ask her out anyway but she finds out about the bet
joe, Im afraid that is a not a good thing. Are you interested in the girl or you asked her out for the bet? Tell her you are sorry and cancel the date and if it just a bet
Hey, thanks for the article. It has really helped me but I am in a kind of weird situation right now.
I have known her for about 3 months now... but I really like her because of both her personality and her looks. Its only been 3 months since I met her, but she starts to talk to me time to time, rather I guess tries to start convos with me, but I cant say im 100% sure on this one. Also, she plays around? with me quite often during gym. She would act like shes punching me/ kicking me.. but not really and she has a real cute smile on when she does.... I would really wish she did like me but then here is the thing, she was asked out by one of my closest friend who is very good looking about a month ago. According to some of my friends, she does like him, but doesnt like the fact that her bf is way too much into skinship and etc... like he clings on to her way too much and she doesnt like those... Could you give me an answer whether or not she does like me?
Jaelovesbamboo I can only say that playing punches at you in the gym does not mean anything.
ughh I must have gotten my hopes up real high.... haha... I was hoping it meant something... but I guess not. It doesnt mean anything even if she only does it to me? and shes not punching me like really, she "acts" like it and touches me a little I guess.. but if it really doesnt mean anything.. I guess I need to try harder after she breaks up with her bf which most likely seems its gonna happen soon
hey cheaptoys my friend and I need some luck with girls. What do we do to win a girl over? Any plans?
Jaelovesbamboo you cant really tell because she may be just being friendly but if you like her you should start trying to be her friend more.
blackbeltplease just read my hub for some hints!
Jaelovesbamboo I've heard from a couple of realible sources that play hitting can mean the girl likes you or at least is interested in you in some close way basically meaning she likes you. If she does stuff like walking up and hugging you when she sees you or kinda shows interest being around you or laughs at things you say even when there not that funny that means she likes you or at least she would date you if you asked
Hey cheaptoys there's this one girl I was gonna go out with because we both got along great and I think she liked me but then we had a week off from school and now she acts like she's not that into me anymore normaly she would always wave high and pour her life story onto me and stuff but now she acts like I'm just another person did I wait till too late ask her out and she figured I didn't like her anymore or what
Andre you said "she figured I didn't like her anymore or what" so do you like her or not
I meant does she think I don't like her anymore yes I do
so have you asked her out yet? I dont think shes feels that you do not like her. I think she is just being friendly
Cheapened u give real good advice but after takin your advice I realized it wasn't u or me that was the problem..it's just fate+life and u add those up and it equals a real mean female dog...just came back to ask u why do girls always go for the asshole mean ones? I mean..I cheated before and she kept comming back but why? I can't figure out just why? Why don't the nice guys keep them? Is it just a highschool thing?
if you leave everything to fate then there wont be any couples in this world. u got to act to make things happen. then fate takes u how far the relationship can go
What you just said made cOmplete sense...I never thought about what would happen if it was only fate..so basIcally I've been blaming problems on fate when all along my input could have changed it(: Ty for allOwing me to see that-great advice
thanks Wukidd hope you will get there
Hey cheaptoys how do i appropriately compliment a girl in highschool cuz all the tips i ever see on the internet are kinda corny and more for adult women because teens in highhschool act a bit more shallow to things than a mature adult might thanks for any tip you can give. Btw im not dating the girl but one day would like to im kinda talkng to her just to get to know her before i start talking to her to try and date her. Again thanks for any tips
well compliment in what sense? u can always say that she looks good today etc
Well something like that but i dont wanna just come out and say you look good today cuz that may sound kinda awkward.
its not awkward when you mean what you say. practice makes perfect tho.
Hey cheaptoys how do you tell a girl you like her not asking her out just telling her how i feel about her is best to leave a note have a frend tell tell her myself or what she already has a bf so i dont want to make things awkward between us
Hi Andre
there are actually many ways to do this. It is up to the individual and you can be creative.
Can you tell me a couple of ways?
dude you mentioned them yourself! like leaving a note or telling her girl friend. if you are afraid it will ruin the friendship you should not tell her but just treat her as a friend and hang out as a friend too
Oh i thought leaving a note would be stockerish. So do i just strait up write i like you lets go out or make it more heartfilled or what. sorry for the questions your the most help ive ever gotten on the subject and telling a girl in the right words is kinda hard for me to imagine since teenagers are shallow by nature, one wrong slip up could ruin me
it really depends Andre. I can only tell you to trust your heart now. You have to know her well. Telling her you like her upfront may backfire.
Thanx man
most welcome Andre
Lately there's been a few girls that you know are my type a girl that's vonrable to being asked out so theres really no.one interested and she is in the right spot than other hot chicks in my class and I'm grade nine big and tall strong too so yeah give my some feedback at Adam James steicke @ me . Com
Thank you I will comment back wat happens
hello i really like this girl and i know she have a boyfriend already but i want her to be my girlfriend. she's not angry at me or stay away from me. I'm really not shy but when i'm near her i become shy. what should i do
Vincent take it easy! start as a friend without any pressure. who knows after getting to know her you might think otherwise. since she has a boyfriend already, you would also have to tell yourself that if keep being shy, she will never be yours.
thank you
U need to show these people what confidence means to girls.
For ex. DO NOT ASK THEM OUT VIVA TEXTING OR SOCIAL NETWORKS. just ask them face to face. Even if they say no they might respect you for asking.
(PS they also like it when you flirt with them, they think it is fun so it is okay to do it with friends; only the girl ones:)
thanks Something interesting comment
Hey cheap toys theres this girl i like and just started talking to her a day or so ago. But today i found shes talking to another guy. Heres the thing the guy is a total douche and not to be selfish but id rather be with her than see her with a undeserving loser. But the thing is this guy has got like a 3 month headstart on me and he is probably gonna ask her out somewhere within the next 3-7 days. Is there a way that i can sort of intercept so to speak and ask her out in like the next three days or so. Basically im asking is if i can quickly get her to like me before i lose my chance with her to a loser. I know your advice would vary based on the girl but any tips you give i could use. Im not exactly smooth with girls cuz ive never had a gf before. Thanks for any help
Just start by being friends with her. Why the need to rush? Whats yours will be yours.
Thanks for the advice. The thing is that i dont know if im ready for a gf i dont go to parties i have little to know money for dates i dont have a car i have a permit but my parents are always gone so i cant borrow there cars. Does this stuff matter to girls like these dating "handicaps" that i have will it make it harder for me to get a girl.
Carlos if you think it matters then do not get a gf ok?
Neil Ashworth 2 years ago
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